To be perfectly honest, it’s probably mostly laziness and not enjoying conflict on my part. But a couple of thoughts.
It’s more interesting to understand other people’s points of view even if I don’t agree with them, than to convince them of mine.
In my observation, arguing almost never changes anyone’s mind, and therefore is about as useful as banging your head on the wall.
Given it seldom changes anyone’s mind, it seems the goal is more often to make ourselves feel good/important/knowledgeable by wining the argument.
The bible gives us lots of explanation of how and why we should show God’s love to others, but non-that we should convince them by arguing.
Finally, I posted an article a while ago that probably sums things up better than I can. You can find it here:
https://discourse.peacefulscience.org/t/in-pursuit-of-a-good-conversation/5108