God in our difficult times

Why is God so absent during our most trying times? Why when we most need him he seem to doesnt care at all? Ive come trough multiple situations where i prayed amd prayed for a breaktrough yet God didnt provide it or any help. Ive resilted to doing it myself.
Everytime thus happens it makes me question my faith big time. Why does God doesnt see this ? Why is he absent?

Ive heard a lot of people say something like"be patient" or" God knows the time" but these arent very helpfull arent they? Sometimes you need help that specific moment whether it be mental or spiritual. And yet you dont get it

Perhaps God doesn’t exist.