Focus on the Family is certainly NOT a group that I hold in high regard.
This is exactly where questions of morality, ethics, and values collide.
To describe life in today’s mixed urban secular society, I would like to invite you to my gym. It is a great place to work out, stay healthy, learn about proper nutrition and keeping your body fit for life. It is very large, with many people of various ages, martial statuses, sexual orientations, genders, and levels of fitness, body shapes and sizes. I am 100% positive that spending an hour or two in my gym at any time day or evening, you will see cosmopolitan life in action. Here is an exchange that recently took place between me and two young women. My wife still laughs aloud when she retells the story to friends and family.
I (a 60 years man who grow up in the 1960’s) goes to the gym nearly everyday to stay fit and healthy. I am an older person at the gym but certainly not any near the oldest. (lots of men and women in their 70’s and 80’ there too.) The gym has a lot of much younger people going both men and woman, guys and gals. I have my morals, ethics and values from living my life. I automatically do things like holding the door open for a woman when entering a store or building. Very old fashion.
One day this summer coming into the gym, I was a few steps ahead of two young women in their late 20’s. I instinctively stopped, opened the door, to allow them to pass into the gym before me. They both smiled, and one said to the other “He just did that to have a look at our asses.” Hearing this, I was stunned. I must have had a strange look on my face, because one of the women turned to me and said “That’s ok, I think it is kind of sweet.” I didn’t know what to say, just let it go by. Retelling the story to my wife, she laughed hysterically and said I was a dinosaur in this world. I still see those women at the gym, they were recently married.
So how does that fit into your view of today’s world?
My grandfather (26) has an arranged marriage with my grandmother (14) raises 8 children, he dies long before her.
My father (27) marries my mother age (23) raises 2 children, he dies 24 years before her
I get married at age 25 to my wife age 25 raise 2 children, living healthy happy lives together for 35 years.
One of my sons to get married next year at age 30 to a wonderful woman age 29, buying house, have two great careers and have no immediate plans for children but want to have children “some day”.
So who is to say what is right and what is wrong with how we chose to live our lives?