Yes, sorry I didn’t even see that typo. It happens. I’m glad I could clarify.
As I have explained, my first impression of your writing was deeply frustrating. I was happy to learn there was more behind it, and I had wrongly judged the person behind the writing. As I explained with this latest piece, it came across as being deceptive in a way. But because I’ve gotten to know you, I knew that wasn’t what your real intentions were. That’s part of why it was deeply frustrating. There are also parts of it we’d just plain disagree on.
But often you remind me of myself. I come off as condescending and self-righteous when if someone knew my true intentions, we’d have more common ground and we’d be able to respect each other more.
What I was trying to encourage you in is to think opposite of “it’s not me, it’s him.” I think Jesus encourages us to do the opposite of that. That was what I was trying to encourage with those verses. In any relationship, if someone waits for the other person to act differently before they do, then nothing will change.
Consider that you may have also formed a presupposition of him. I guess neither has to do anything differently if you don’t care to change the status quo, but actually my impression is that you both really do care and it’s a sticking point.